How to crush a crush and get over it, in one step.
For the first time, the researchers at the University of Cambridge have made the process of breaking up a relationship simple and painless, allowing people to move on and live happily ever after.
The study, published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, shows that people can achieve long-term stability and happiness by breaking up the relationship with a single step.
The researchers used a novel method of breaking apart relationships that involved showing a person a series of images of the same face and body and asking them to rate how happy they felt with each image.
They then asked people to rate their own happiness on a scale of 1 to 10, where 10 is the highest.
People rated themselves as being happy when they felt like they had achieved some sort of emotional harmony.
However, they felt more unhappy when they were not, suggesting that they could be unhappy and yet have no desire to be, said lead researcher Professor Andrew Walshe, from the university’s Department of Psychology.
Dr Walsle said: “The key to breaking up relationships is to be able to make an honest assessment of the person you are living with.
This makes the relationship feel stable, while also allowing you to move forward in life with a clear conscience.”
For example, the participants who were asked to rate themselves on a 10-point scale when they experienced emotional harmony felt that their relationships with their partner had improved, while those who were not asked rated themselves more negatively.
The researchers say this indicates that, while they may not feel happy, they feel they are at least as happy with the person they are living together with as they were with them.
While this study found that people were able to change their minds about a relationship after it had ended, it did not necessarily lead to lasting happiness, the team said.
“The findings show that the long-standing negative effects of emotional neglect can be overcome, but also suggest that there are ways to make the relationship stronger in the long term,” Dr Walsch said.
“It’s good news for people who are in relationships who want to move past their problems and want to have a good relationship, but who are worried about not getting the support they need.”
The research was funded by the Leverhulme Trust and the National Institute for Health Research.
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